Success Comes When Fear is Conquered
Fear. It’s a word we’re accustomed to and it haunts our lives in every single avenue we turn. We’re fearmongered into security over liberty via the media. We fear things both when we’re young and as we age.
But there’s a convenient truth no one tells us about: Fear is the obstacle keeping you from success.
Nothing bothers me more when people pursue passion but give up after only a few tries, if that. They say they had this or that going for them, but it didn’t work out.
I want to ask this question: How many times did you try before quitting? I’m not going to sugarcoat this. You quit. How many times did you try?
If you answered once, twice, or even three times, fear kept you from continuing due to security of a possible job or employee benefit offer.
How many successful people do you know didn’t give up until they achieved what they wanted?
I know many.
In fact, I read an article on Joanna Penn’s blog, The Creative Penn. In her interview with seven-figure indie-author, Mark Dawson. I’ll add the article as a source to the end of this one, because for any writer or anyone fearing failure, it’s worth the read.
Long story short, Dawson speaks of how he earned, I want to say $10 in six months on Amazon after having a miserable time with traditional publishers and trying to make it as an indie. No, that’s not a typo, the guy made $10 in six months. There are also indie-authors out there who may not have made a single penny in six months…or a year.
But, what Dawson did was he found a way to make things work. This was back in 2012, so he’s a relatively recent household name. He saw what didn’t work and saw what worked.
I’ve even heard stories of successful people who’ve tried and failed at several businesses before finding what works for them. When they do, the fruits of all the hours, time, frustration, and tears become worth it.
Fear is the Obstacle
Fear is the obstacle. I can’t stress that enough. Hey, if I’d go the route my family wants me to go, I’d have a decent job, decent pay, I’d own a house, collect employment benefits, and set myself up for retirement.
And of course, if I were to, say, just quit my job and do this full-time without knowing if it’d work or not work, well, I already know how that conversation would go. I’d be an automatic failure, I’d run out of money, I’d end up in the poor house (or back at my parents’ house) and become a real-life George Costanza.
My mother would freak, telling me I’m failing simply because I have no income stream. Lord and Lady knows what my father would do? I’ve no idea.
But to me, it leads me to a theory: Most of us were brought up this way. Most of us were brought up thinking if, at any given time we have zero income coming in, regardless of working 50, 60, 70, 80 hours a week toward a dream that, in Dawson’s case, makes seven-figure income, we’re going to fail.
And that fearmongering, the lack of knowledge our parents hold, or held (hey, I’m telling it like it is), their holding us back from doing what we know we can succeed in, in my opinion, is the absolute worst thing (barring anything major, obviously) a parent can do for a kid.
But, this is major.
Because a parent is telling their own kid they can’t succeed at what they want, on their terms. That’s disheartening.
Now, if the kid just doesn’t possess raw talent or ability at what they want, it’s an obvious disservice to the kid if they continue to push them in the direction of pursuit, but I feel it’s rare. In fact, I only believe such a case exists when the parent is pushing the kid into something, like dance for instance. And the kid falls in love with dance because it’s all they know, despite their poor skills.
What’s the solution for parents who instill fear in their kids?
Stop instilling such fear! Do you people realize what you’re doing to your kid’s confidence?
Never tell a kid who has high aspirations it’s okay to dream, but reality looks like this, or looks like that! Never, ever, ever tell a kid only a small percentage make it in any field. Of course, it’s a small percentage, but the small percentage outlasts the large percentage because they may’ve failed so many times they finally succeeded! LOOK AT MARK DAWSON! LOOK AT JOANNA PENN!
Heck, even Thomas Edison failed 10,000 times before he finally succeeded in inventing the lightbulb. What if Edison had just given up? The world for some odd reason never listened to Tesla, so he’s out by default. When would the lightbulb had been invented? Would it have been invented, and if not, we’d still be partying like it’s 1899.
Or, better yet. What if that crazy person (or people) who thought a phone would tell you anything you asked it back in 1985 gave up on their dreams?
For anyone over the age of thirty-eight, if someone told you a phone could tell you anything you asked it back in 1985, what would you have said? Would you have said anything, or would you have called the asylum police had the individual(s) institutionalized?
Success Comes When Fear is Conquered
For those whose parents have fearmongered them into some myth that the only way to succeed is to follow policies x, y, and z, and to never break the rules, I have good news for you. Especially if you’re eighteen or older, because now, you get to live the adult life!
And sure, while you may need a gig to pay the bills and perhaps a loan or two, you have the power to control any and every obstacle set in your way. Set in your path.
You have the power to live your life the way you see fit, and only you. And no one can tell you to live this way, or that way, even if Mom and Dad are still trying to convince you to do things their way.
Break the rules, and be innovative, especially if you have the talent. Especially if you have a dream, a message, that must be spread. And an idea that must be sold.
Sell your passion, you’re worthy and talented enough to do so.
Yes, there will be roadblocks, yes there will be failure, but yes, in the end, if you continue to fail, you’ll succeed because you’ll have found the proper tools you needed to succeed. You’ll have found the proper formula it takes to succeed. And that, that is the greatest blessing one can attain.
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